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How do you say goodbye when you imagine what could have been. How can we take the step to shut someone out of our lives or dump them. I can pick up individuals but the idea of dumping is foreign to me. So tell me how do you say goodbye forever.
So yeah. That's it. Felt like writing a blog but the description is all I have. That, and imagining seeing someone years later who we dumped. I don't dump. I act like a huge burden so I get dumped. That way I never have to deal with it.
I can only imagine the hurt it must cause people to see someone they dumped years later. To imagine that they made that choice. To know they could have fixed them, and they could also have been fixed. Just knowing this would be painful enough. Whether the person was successful or a failure. Either way they could have been the difference. Our modern culture tells us no one can change another. Well I tell you that's bullshit. Call me dependant, naive, and stupid. I don't care. As the butterfly effect tells us a slight breeze can change history. Imagine what a person can do. I call all those who say someone can't fix us the stupid ones.
That is aside my point though. I was trying to examine the pain of knowing you made the choice. You played god with life rather than try to just do your best you threw someone away. There is no good outcome to this. Or at least no painless one. You see that person years later. They are rich successful, and eloquent. You feel pain for misjudging them. Or you see them broken and battered and feel responsible for what they are. Dumping is not an easy thing. No wonder I try to make others do my dirty work.
On the flip side being the dumped person hurts also. Knowing you cared, and that if you become better you may cause the person pain and guilt. At least by failing you would know they would have comfort in being right. Unless you are vengeful the idea of succeeding can only cause confusion. If you did get dumped it's almost easier just to give up and fail. Then the person was right, and will not feel guilt if you do become successful.
Anyway that's it. I'm on a partial strike right now so if you want more. Too fucking bad. If you don't like it dump me. Then I'll have an excuse to fail.